I’m sure you’ve been told, “There is no ‘I’ in the team.” However, I think that the “I” is implied and essential to the overall success of any team. Do you know a member of the team who is also the one who is their own worst adversary? Team success is dependent on each member working in tandem with a common goal of growth and success. Here are five important ways to accept personal changes and increasing your influence on your group.
“He who knows others is wise. He who knows himself is enlightened” — Lao Tzu. The first person you need to be aware of and comprehend is yourself. It seems that we are capable of assessing everyone around us, but not us. Only a few are blessed with the ability to recognize their own self. It takes a lot of desire along with a significant amount of work to develop a sense of self-awareness. Being self-aware is not something that happens effortlessly or swiftly for the majority of people. Self-awareness requires planning and conscious effort. Self-awareness has been a subject of study for long periods of time. Visit any library or bookstore and check out self-help or the Self Help section. Choose a book that is interesting to you, and then begin reading. Reflecting and reading can help you gain perspective. It is also possible to consider taking a “normal variables” psychological test such as that of the DiSC Profile or the Meyers-Briggs. A few variants of the tests are available on the internet. Knowing your psychological profile can enable you to be aware of how you’re perceived by other people. In the end, and perhaps the most challenging, when someone you know offers feedback, take the time to listen and reflect before you react. When you learn from the mistakes of others, you’ll be able to know yourself better.
“The ‘self-image’ is the key to human personality and human behavior. Change the self-image, and you change the personality and the behavior” — Maxwell Maltz. The first person to master the art of getting along with is you. Maltz and a lot of psychologists believe that what you say to yourself is the most important factor in improving your self-esteem. If you are not confident in yourself, you’ll employ self-talk that includes words like “can’t,” “weak,” “failure,” and other negative self-talk. A positive self-image is built on self-talk that is positive. The most important connection you’ll ever have has to do with yourself. You can become your best friend when you view yourself with optimism. This has to happen before you develop meaningful relationships with others. It’s impossible to be the most devoted friend to someone you don’t have any connection with or do not like. It is therefore important to discover your identity and strive to be an individual you respect and admire.
“Honesty, like gold, is to be obtained not by its growth, but by washing away from it all that is not gold” Leo Tolstoy. The first person that can cause your problems is you. The most effective way to identify the one responsible for the majority of our issues is to look at your mirror. The only thing that can help us is the willingness to examine the mirror and admit our mistakes, limitations, and issues.
On my tenth college reunion, I had lunch with an acquaintance I was close to during my time at high school. He had left the country following graduation, and I had not seen him in years. I was beginning my second job after having been at the previous one for ten years. He did not tell me the number of jobs he’d done in, but they were numerous. He claimed that there were many “idiots” in the world, and it was apparent that he worked with them. It was evident to me from the acquaintance’s stories of trouble that he was at the root of the issue. If you’re looking to comprehend the obstacles in your life, then you need to examine yourself with honesty.
“When the archer misses the mark, he turns and looks for the fault within himself. Failure to hit the bull’s eye is never the fault of the target. To improve your aim – improve yourself” Gilbert Arland. Gilbert Arland. The first person you have to modify is yourself. People who have problems with their relationships typically look at everyone but themselves to justify the issue. In reality, we must take a look at ourselves and determine the root cause. Looking for happiness through making any changes to your attitude is to waste your time.
The danger of presenting at a conference or writing an article such as this one is that people begin to think that you’re an expert and have been able to master all you teach. It’s far from the reality; I’m still developing. One of the principles that are part of Alcoholics Anonymous is “Progress, not perfection.” That will always be the case for me. If I think I’ve reached the end of my growth, I’m in trouble.
You are responsible for your own actions. It is impossible to alter the environment and seasons or the winds; however, you can make changes to your own. This is what you are in to take care of” Jim Rohn. The first person who has the power to make an impact can be you. I believe that significant achievements start with the dream of one person. The person who has the vision is responsible for carrying that vision to their team. If you’re determined to be a positive influence in the world, you must be accountable for your own actions.
I recently conducted training at Walmart. The training was conducted in the break room located in the rear of the shop. When I left, I walked up towards the entrances leading to the front of the shop. A mirror was in front of the doors. It was above it, the following message “Take a good look at yourself. This is what the customer sees.” It was a clear message. The employees were accountable for the way they represented Walmart in front of the customers.
As we learn about ourselves and realize that the only option will be to put aside the blame on other people, take a look at ourselves and start the work to resolve the issues that create problems for us. If you’re looking for more positive relationships with your team members, then take a step back and look at yourself in the mirror, and begin to work on yourself. When you have your “I” right in your team, then you will reap the rewards of success.