Personal growth and the growth of teams are connected. Althea Gibson stated, “No matter what accomplishments you make, somebody helped you.” In the field of professional sports, there are three kinds of players.
Receiver… take, but don’t give. They are focused on themselves and seldom take the time to assist other people. They’re only interested in what they can gain from others, and they have no concern for the needs of others.
Exchangers… Receive and give. These team members focus on keeping score. They’ll provide information and assistance; however, their primary motivation isn’t helping others. They view relationships as an instrument for barter. Exchangers generally won’t begin giving until they’re expecting something in exchange. When they make a donation without expectation, it’s because they believe they owe somebody else for information they previously received or help.
Givers… Give and then take back. They are the ones who focus on helping others. They first give and receive when you offer something back. They know that success is based on being friendly, helpful, and encouraging. Their aim is to make the people they work with feel better, and they know how to do that is by giving of themselves. Giving first is the way to get the benefits of winning relationships.
The best way for Givers to be of assistance is to assist others. They build this collaborative process through the investment in friendships. Zig Ziglar clarifies that the spirit behind this strategy; “You can have everything in life that you want if you just give enough other people what they want.” How do you develop your team and yourself by being a Giver? Start by following the following five actions:
1. Put others first when you think about others.
Healthy relationships at work begin with the ability to identify the needs of your coworkers. Be aware of team goals and try to cultivate a sense that is kind to your coworkers. Honor those joining your team before they have the chance to be rewarded. Do unintentional acts of kindness.
2. Concentrate on helping others, not on the return you can make in your own time.
The novelist Herman Melville believed, “We cannot live only for ourselves. A thousand fibers connect us with our fellow men.” We are part of our fellows, and our fates are interspersed. In the end, by helping others, we also benefit. Giving is like investing in the market for stocks. In the long term, they will gain, but they have no control over how that returns will be like or the way it will be realized. However, since they have control over the amount they invest, it is the right place to focus their attention and energy.
3. Seek out several companies that could be potential.
Smart investors don’t invest all their funds into one particular fund or stock. They diversify their portfolios by investing in a variety of sectors. However, good investors do not do too much also. Investors follow the same pattern. When you show kindness and support to everyone on your team, make sure you select only those with high potential to grow to be able to work with a lot of passion. Make sure that their desire to grow is in line with your strengths and skills.
4. Remember, it takes two to dance.
It is impossible to assist anyone who doesn’t wish to help. The people you’re mentoring should trust and believe in your ability. The more each one of you is committed to advancing and developing, the greater the chance your process is going to be successful.
5. The reward for your efforts will be there.
If people’s motives are honest and they truly want to contribute to the welfare of other people, they will reap an amount of reward. It could be instantaneous or may take a while; however, it will happen.
Benjamin Franklin said, “A man wrapped up in himself makes a very small bundle.” Be sure to keep your focus away from what others might give you, and instead of turning your attention to what you could give to your team and your professional career to the max.